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Chronicles of the Determined Divorcee— A desire for intimacy, for connection, is natural for humans.
I’ve learned a lot on Instagram; it’s so easy to read those Post-It notes sized blurbs with mental health advice or bullet points when scrolling. I’m a busy woman and I appreciate that I can read something helpful in such an easy and quick way.
However, I don’t always agree with everything that’s posted on there.
One of those things is this idea that in order to make way for love in your life, you have to be completely fine with being alone. Like you should almost not even want intimacy or connection, and then it’ll come to you.
I do agree that one should be comfortable being alone and work on yourself in the meantime, but it’s okay to want intimacy and connection. There’s sometimes a sense of judgement or shame in these posts that make me feel bad for even wanting it.
It’s a completely natural and very human response to life; connection and community help us along and provide support, and we can always use those things. Hyper-independence doesn’t make a positive difference in your life; it can actually be a little harmful. Putting too much on your shoulders and feeling like you have to handle everything on your own is hard on your mental health.
